Dating & Relationships

How To Maintain Intimacy With Your Partner As A Parent

You used to spend more time in bed than out of it. You held hands in public. You used to kiss just for the sake of kissing, and not just as a greeting or goodbye. Sound familiar? 

Most couples become less intimate with each other once they become parents, as understandably, their priorities change. However, know that it doesn’t have to be that way. 

Although you may not be able to enjoy each other in the same way as you did pre-kids, that doesn’t mean you can’t still have a fulfilling and intimate relationship. This is how:

Show appreciation 

Are you perhaps guilty of taking your partner for granted? If you answered yes, now is the perfect time to start showing them how much you appreciate them. Start it off with a simple thank you, for instance. This can go a long way and can act as the building blocks for a more intimate relationship. 

Avoid complacency

If you keep putting off working on your relationship, then you should know that there will never be the perfect time to rekindle the romance. You might be looking after a newborn, running around after a toddler, or getting your child ready to start school; there will always be something that will “get in the way” of working on your relationship. 

However, it is important to note, the longer you wait, the harder it will be to regain intimacy

Talk about your fantasies

When it comes to keeping your spark alive in the bedroom, this can often be one of the hardest elements of your relationship to get back once you become a parent. 

However, it can be done. One of the top tips to get in the mood is to talk about what turns you on with your partner. Share your fantasies and explore new ways to be intimate with each other. You may even want to introduce some sex toys from into the bedroom. 

Use technology 

While technology has been blamed for making more disconnected as a nation when used correctly, it can help to bring couples together and improve intimacy in your relationship. 

A simple text that says “I love you” or “I’m thinking about you” can work make your partner feel loved and cherished for the whole day. Or, if you are feeling a little racy, you could send a naughty message or even a picture to get your partner turned on and thinking about you. 

Focus on communication 

The logistics of being intimate when you have young children can be hard to navigate, so you need to make sure you communicate with one another. It can also be a good idea to schedule some alone time together so that you don’t let daily life get in the way of your relationship. It doesn’t matter if this is once a week or once a month; the most important thing is that it is consistent. 

Practice self-care

If you often use tiredness or stress as an excuse not to be intimate with your partner, then a little self-care can help you to feel refreshed and ready for action. This could be a long bubble bath at the end of the day, a morning run, or just half an hour quietly reading a book. Any pastime that you enjoy.  


Carlos Cavallo

Carlos Cavallo is the world-renowned celebrity dating & relationship advice for women coach. He's the author of Passion Phrases, The Cupid Effect, with hundreds of articles, videos, and dating tips for women.

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