Having sex or lovemaking is an intimate act between a man and a woman and, as a result, of which it is possible to not only get not physical and emotional pleasure but also to achieve the highest level of harmony and trust between the partners.
However, how to do it right and what exactly to do so both partners remain satisfied with such spending of time?
1. Pleasure is a result of active actions
Traditionally, a man plays a significant part when it comes to sex. They are required to be experienced, know ergogenic zones, stamina, and imagination.
It does not mean though that a woman should behave as elusive medieval homemaker; open-mindedness, activeness, willing to please a partner are the basics of right lovemaking.
2. Show initiative
Do not forget that there is no place for indifference in bed.
Indifference breeds indifference, which is why do not treat lovemaking as boring routine when you can make a shopping list looking at the cracks in the ceiling as well.
3. Bring diversity
Turn fulfilment of marital duty into pleasurable spending of time.
For example, you can easily use the changing of clothes to inspire your imagination to fire a man.
Role-plays, a suit of a medical nurse for you or a Zorro mask for your partner is a great way to reinvent habitual relations. Do not meet your husband wearing pyjamas.
Boredom is the first enemy to enjoy sex. Try to replace time when you have sex to the morning, alternate softly caress and casual sex wearing clothes.
You will see for yourself how much more vivid your intimate life will become.
4. Seven-color flower play
Perhaps you remember the fairy tale with the same name, about a flower with multi-coloured petals, tearing off each of which, it was possible to make a wish, and it was surely fulfilled.
Make the same flower out of paper. Offer your loved one to write on each of them one sexual desire (fantasy) that he wants you to do for him.
You, in turn, by agreement with a partner, will, for example, once a week tear one petal one by one and fulfil the wish that your beloved person wrote on it.
5. Certificate for sex in unusual place play
This game will help your partner to share with you his fantasies about places where he would like you to go in for sex.
Make a few small colorful certificates. It is desirable that their size was small enough to fit in a pocket. Vouchers can be stitched or stapled.
On a separate piece of paper of the same format as the certificates, write something like this: “You can give me any of these certificates to the place where you would like to make love to me, and I will gladly accept your offer.”
This game can have two options: “winter” and “summer.”
The difference, in this case, is to put the partner or not to stipulate that the places where he will give you each of the certificates will be outdoors (the “summer” option) or without making such a reservation (the “winter” option).
6. Kamasutra lot play
The essence of this game is to play, as in a lottery game, those positions in which you will make love once again.
For this game, you can use the “Kama Sutra Cube.” These cubes are sold in any sex-shop.
Alternatively, you can order it online. The book “Kama Sutra” is also suitable. In it, you can guess the page numbers or open a book randomly.
You can download pictures of Kama Sutra positions on the web and make cards with such positions on your own and already randomly to pull out cards from the general “deck.”
In other words, you can issue this game in the version that will be convenient for you.
7. A wish box play
This game can combine all three previous games in one. According to the plan, it is as follows.
In a box, a vase, you and your partner can leave little notes with desires, fantasies, and preferences of a very different plan.
This may be unusual places for practising sex, positions, “toys” that can be used while having sex, and any other wishes. Determine with the partner the color of your notepaper.
For example, yours will be blue, and your partner – green.
Accordingly, to fulfil your desire, he will need to take out a note written on a blue leaflet from a casket, and you will need to take it out on a green one.
Such games can not only help partners overcome shyness and embarrassment, but also, in general, to diversify the couple’s sexual life.
Also, intrigue will be brought into the couple’s sexual life, which will also help partners experience a new “taste” of erotic relationships.
Greater openness, the frankness with a partner will make the sexual relationship of a couple more harmonious and trusting.
8. Get away from it all
Any woman will find something to boast with, whether at work or in the kitchen; anyone has a hobby of her own; however, far from every one of them pay attention to sexual life — besides, a few improvements in this area.
The new experience, sex toys, change one’s environment will help to drive the relations and to put them along the right line.
At home, for instance, candles and soft music will do. Put on sexy lingerie, dance striptease for your husband. Alternatively, make a date.
Go to a restaurant, rent a hotel room, and imagine that you happen to have a wild fling with a stranger.
9. Remember about your partner’s pleasure
You do not need a professor degree to make love. This is why there is no need to spend hours, years studying literature and search for information about sex (even though at times it is useful too).
The main thing is to feel your partner, have a desire to please him (her), listen to his(her) needs. Egoism is an enemy of good sex, harmony, and mutual satisfaction.
10. Forget about all your complexes
Try to get rid of complexes. You can do it only if you free yourself entirely from taboos and inhibitions, having trust in your partner, understanding what exactly can pleasure another person.
A bedroom is a closed space where nobody but you, which is why you do not feel shame or afraid.
Make real the most extravagant and desired wishes of both of you.
You can find lovemaking ideas in books, movies, on the web. Barriers and modesty are enemies of orgasm, and so no pleasure is achieved.
How to learn to make love?
There is only one answer to this question – you need experience and a partner. You cannot learn everything for one or three times.
Striving not only to get to know your partner but also trying something new is the key to success in this private area.
Many people do not ever ask a question how to learn to make love because they think they already know how to do it right, however, keep in mind that there are many other positions apart from a missionary one.
Open Kamasutra, for example.
Of course, it is perfect if you found an ideal man (a woman), with whom you will learn the necessary skills of this art, learn and achieve harmony.
But more often than not, the key to knowing how to make love lies within the diverse experience, many partners, who will help you to look at lovemaking from different angles.
Men, however, are more predisposed to changing partners but remember, even if you are more experienced, it does not mean that you can impose your attitude on your partner considering yourself a sex guru.
Mutual trust, no egoism will help you not only share the experience you have with your partner but also to learn something new together.
Because of the basics of extreme sex and different intimate life understanding of the fact that pleasure is not only something to receive but also something to give and in doing so, you multiply it.
Besides, remember that it is possible to learn lovemaking only if both partners are willing to develop relationships, to make the quality of intimacy higher, and the level of trust deeper.
If only one out of the two partners strive for it, such a couple is unlikely to achieve harmony.
